The Best Web Development Frameworks

Web Development Framework is a software framework that is designed to support the development of a Websites, Web applications and Web services. Many frameworks provide libraries for database access, templating frameworks and session management, and they often promote code reuse.

Web development can be little tough if there had been no frameworks to make our life easier. Any Web Framework is a boon to a web developer as it provides so many options, flexibility and its a big time saver.

Here, we have compiled the best of web development frameworks in PHP, CSS, JavaScript, Python and Java. All these frameworks have there pros and cons, they can help you make your project look clean and robost. For future reference, you can bookmark this post and share it with your friends and web-programmers.

PHP

Yiiframework : Yii is a high-performance component-based PHP framework for developing large-scale Web applications. Yii enables maximum reusability in Web programming and can significantly accelerate the development process. The name Yii (pronounced as Yee or [ji:]) stands for easy, efficient and extensible.

Codeigniter : CodeIgniter is a powerful PHP framework with a very small footprint, built for PHP coders who need a simple and elegant toolkit to create full-featured web applications. If you’re a developer who lives in the real world of shared hosting accounts and clients with deadlines, and if you’re tired of ponderously large and thoroughly undocumented frameworks.

Cakephp : CakePHP is a rapid development framework for PHP that provides an extensible architecture for developing, maintaining, and deploying applications. Using commonly known design patterns like MVC and ORM within the convention over configuration paradigm, CakePHP reduces development costs and helps developers write less code.

Phpdevshell : PHPDevShell would typically be used to develop general web based applications. It is not a CMS (Content Management System) or an MVC Framework nor does it pretend to be one of those solutions. PHPDevShell is essentially a ready made GUI application where you can immediately start with the development work that matters most, your application. For security and usability it already provides you with user registration and management, role management, group management, access rights security, system settings, templates, control panels, cronjob management, menu management, plugin management etc.

Akelos : Akelos PHP Framework is a web application development platform based on the MVC (Model View Controller) design pattern. Based on good practices, it allows you to: Write views using Ajax easily, Control requests and responses through a controller, Manage internationalized applications, Communicate models and the database using simple conventions.

Symfony : Symfony is a full-stack framework, a library of cohesive classes written in PHP. It provides an architecture, components and tools for developers to build complex web applications faster. Choosing symfony allows you to release your applications earlier, host and scale them without problem, and maintain them over time with no surprise. Symfony is based on experience. It does not reinvent the wheel: it uses most of the best practices of web development and integrates some great third-party libraries.

Pradosoft : PRADO is a component-based and event-driven programming framework for developing Web applications in PHP 5. PRADO stands for PHP Rapid Application Development Object-oriented. I love its component-based structure. It let you separate the html view apart from the server process. Very well supported and alive.

Zend : Extending the art & spirit of PHP, Zend Framework is based on simplicity, object-oriented best practices, corporate friendly licensing, and a rigorously tested agile codebase. Zend Framework is focused on building more secure, reliable, and modern Web 2.0 applications & web services, and consuming widely available APIs from leading vendors like Google, Amazon, Yahoo!, Flickr, as well as API providers and cataloguers like StrikeIron and ProgrammableWeb.

Seagullproject : Seagull is a mature OOP framework for building web, command line and GUI applications. Licensed under BSD, the project allows PHP developers to easily integrate and manage code resources, and build complex applications quickly.

Zoopframework : It predates the recent proliferation of PHP frameworks, based on solid MVC principles, including separation of display, logic, and data layers. It’s designed to be efficient, modular, and extensible, striking a balance between lightweight and fully-featured.

Phpmvc : php.MVC implements the Model-View-Controller (MVC) design pattern, and encourages application design based on the Model 2 paradigm. This design model allows the Web page or other contents (View) to be mostly separated from the internal application code (Controller/Model), making it easier for designers and programmers to focus on their respective areas of expertise.  The framework provides a single entry point Controller. The Controller is responsible for allocating HTTP requests to the appropriate Action handler (Model) based on configuration mappings.

AjaxAC : AjaxAC is an open-source framework written in PHP, used to develop/create/generate AJAX applications. The fundamental idea behind AJAX (Asynchronous JavaScript And XML) is to use the XMLHttpRequest object to change a web page state using background HTTP sub-requests without reloading the entire page. It is released under the terms of the Apache License v2.0.

Qcodo : The Qcodo Development Framework is an open-source PHP framework that focuses on freeing developers from unnecessary tedious, mundane coding.  Qcodo enables some the most highly trafficked websites and data intensive applications for companies like Lockheed Martin and Hewlett-Packard, large organizations like Stanford School of Medicine, Academy of Country Music and NASA, and startups like Chess.com and Uloop.

Maintainable : It is a based around the Model-View-Controller pattern and is modeled after Ruby on Rails. Like any framework, it’s certainly not appropriate for every application. The framework provides a comprehensive test suite to get you on the right track setting up tests.

Evocore : The evoCore framework distinguishes itself by the fact it doesn’t require PHP 5 to work! As of early 2010, evoCore will still work perfectly under PHP 4 in order to guarantee your applications can be hosted on virtually any web hosting provider, including low cost cheap web hosting plans.

Phocoa : PHOCOA’s primary intent is to make web application development in PHP easier, faster, and higher-quality. The framework handles most of the “dirty work” of web application development by providing infrastructure for all of the common tasks. Most of your time writing PHOCOA apps will be spent designing your GUI and writing application-specific logic rather than dealing with form data, database calls, etc.

Kohana : Kohana is an elegant HMVC PHP5 framework that provides a rich set of components for building web applications. It requires very little configuration, fully supports UTF-8 and i18n, and provides many of the tools that a developer needs within a highly flexible system. The integrated class auto-loading, cascading filesystem, highly consistent API, and easy integration with vendor libraries make it viable for any project, large or small.

Limb : Limb3 is an OpenSource(LGPL) Library of Interdependent Modules and Blocks mostly aimed for rapid web application prototyping and development with PHP5. Limb3 consists of many reusable components and you can cherry pick the ones you need and combine them with other frameworks and libraries(e.g. ZendFramework, Symfony, PEAR, etc)

Solarphp : PHP 5 framework for web application development. It is fully name-spaced and uses enterprise application design patterns, with built-in support for localization and configuration at all levels. The code base itself is easy to comprehend, adheres to well-documented naming conventions, and exhibits strong conceptual integrity.

Blueshoes : BlueShoes is a comprehensive application framework and content management system. It is written in the widely used web-scripting language PHP.  BlueShoes offers excellent support for the popular MySQL database as well as support for Oracle and MSSQL.

CSS

Coming Soon….

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7 must-reads for entrepreneurs

If you’re an entrepreneur, odds are you’re insanely busy.  You may welcome constructive suggestions to improve your business, but don’t really have time to hunt for answers. The good news is there are plenty of great books on the market that can help make a difference.

  • The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey – A great model for setting the right priorities for yourself and your organization
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie–The title would benefit from an overhaul but this is a time-tested classic. Key point: to do well you need to genuinely like people and you can’t fake it.  The rest of the book is about how to do that well.
  • Good to Great, Jim Collins– If you want advice that is well researched, this is excellent on providing key principals for building lasting value.  Favorite points: 1) get the right people on the bus and 2) figure out your hedgehog ratio.
  • The Innovator’s Dilemma, Clay Christensen- Great insights on how disruptive change really happens. The great news for entrepreneurs is that disruptive change tends to be very capital efficient.
  • The World Is Flat, Thomas L. Friedman – The fundamental change brought about by tapping overseas talent to start capital efficient companies is a long-term trend, creating enormous entrepreneurial opportunities.  Another more recent lesson on this comes from “The 4 Hour Work Week” by Tim Ferris
  • Strategic Selling, Robert Miller – The lifeblood of a company is sales. Founders need to sell and manage sales well to be successful.  Here are the best principals in sales strategy and execution I have seen used by the most successful companies.
  • Made to Stick, Chip and Dan Heath – Entrepreneurs need to evangelize and spread their ideas.
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21 Inspirational Movies For Young Entrepreneurs

wall street 207x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursWall Street (1987)
Message: Every dream has it’s price.
Summary: Bud Fox is a Wall Street stockbroker in early 1980’s New York with a strong desire to get to the top. Fox finally meets with extremely successful (but ruthless and greedy) broker Gordon Gekko, who takes the youth under his wing and explains his philosophy that “Greed is Good”. Taking the advice and working closely with Gekko, Fox soon finds himself swept into a world of “yuppies”, shady business deals, the “good life”, fast money, and fast women; something which is at odds with his family including his estranged father and the blue-collared way Fox was brought up.

tucker 212x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursTucker: The Man & His Dream (1988)
Message: Leaders never give up on their vision.
Summary: Based on a true story. Shortly after World War II, Preston Tucker is a grandiose schemer with a new dream, to produce the best cars ever made. With the assistance of Abe Karatz and some excellent salesmanship on his own part, he obtains funding and begins to build his factory. The whole movie also has many parallels with director Coppola’s own efforts to build a new movie studio of his own.

glengarry glen ross 192x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursGlengarry Glenn Ross (1992)
Message: Make success your only option.
Summary: Times are tough in a New York real-estate office and 4 salesmen are given a strong incentive by Blake to succeed in a sales contest. The prizes? First prize is a Cadillac Eldorado, second prize is a set of steak knives, third prize is the sack! There is no room for losers in this dramatically masculine world; only “closers” will get the good sales leads. There is a lot of pressure to succeed, so a robbery is committed which has unforeseen consequences for all the characters.

p1 rudy 225x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursRudy (1993)
Message: Determination and heart will get you further than talent.
Summary: Rudy is a true story about Dan Ruettiger, an aspiring Notre Dame football player and his struggles to make it. Rudy grew up in a steel mill town where most people invested a lifetime into hard labor. With poor grades, mediocre athletic skill, and half the physical size of the other players, Rudy shows he can overcome all challenges with spirit and drive.

forrest gump poster 210x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursForrest Gump (1994)
Message: Life is like a box of chocolates…you never know what you’re gonna get.
Summary: A man with a low IQ has accomplished great things in his life and been present during significant historic events – in each case, far exceeding what anyone imagined he could do. Yet, despite all the things he has attained, his one true love eludes him. “Forrest Gump” is the story of a man who rose above his challenges, and who proved that determination, courage, and love are more important than ability.

braveheart 207x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursBraveheart (1995)

Message: What are you willing to fight for?
Summary: One of the best movies of all time. When he was a young boy, William Wallace’s father and brother, along with many others, lost their lives trying to free Scotland. Once he loses another of his loved ones, William Wallace begins his long quest to earn Scotland’s freedom from English rule around the end of the 13th century. Wallace leads the people of his country into a outnumber battle and never looses sight for what he believes in.

jerry maguire 201x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursJerry Maguire (1996)
Message: The journey is everything.
Summary: Jerry Maguire used to be a typical sports agent: willing to do just about anything he could to get the biggest possible contracts for his clients, plus a nice commission for himself. Then, one day, he suddenly has second thoughts about what he’s really doing. When he voices these doubts, he ends up losing his job and all of his clients, save Rod Tidwell, an egomaniacal football player. Can Jerry resurrect his career while still staying true to himself?

office space 209x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursOffice Space (1999)
Message: The 9-5 may not get you very far.
Summary: Peter Gibbons is a cubicle-dwelling employee stuck in the rat race. His girlfriend is cheating on him, he has an obnoxious neighbor, and he’s completely miserable with his job as a small cog in a company called Initech. Then he visits a hypnotherapist, who put Peter into a state of complete bliss. Free of worrying about making a living, he no longer feels the need to keep his job, just as the company is going through a massive downsizing. However, his new attitude only makes him more valuable in the company’s eyes.

2vxneib 1 210x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursPirates of Silicon Valley (1999)
Message: Copying may just mean good business.
Summary: From the obscure dorm-room and backyard origins to their very public battle for corporate supremacy, recap the journey of Microsoft founder Bill Gates and Apple co-founders Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak — the former a crafty Harvard dropout, the latter a pair of hippies with jobs at Hewlett-Packard and a yen to sell miniature versions of corporate mainframes to small businesses and at-home enthusiasts. The former plot thread recounts how Jobs and Wozniak “borrowed” key concepts from a Xerox computer lab, eked out their success as counter-cultural businessmen.

BoilerRoom 200x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursBoiler Room (2000)
Message: Selling will close one deal, caring will change your life.
Summary: A morally decent college dropout finds himself at conflict with his harsh federal judge father. From running a profitable underground casino, he gets a job as a stock broker and gets on the fast track to success. The firm is full of hard-nosed young go-getters striving to make it rich. Only things take a turn for the worst when he learns that his job isn’t what’s it cracked up to be.

remember the titans1229642708 198x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursRemember the Titans (2000)
Message: We all are one.
Summary: Suburban Virginia schools have been segregated for generations, in sight of the Washington Monument over the river in the nation’s capital. One Black and one White high school are closed and the students sent to T.C. Williams High School under federal mandate to integrate. The year is seen through the eyes of the football team where the man hired to coach the Black school is made head coach over the highly successful white coach. Based on the actual events of 1971, the team becomes the unifying symbol for the community as the boys and the adults learn to depend on and trust each other.

beautiful mind 202x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursA Beautiful Mind (2001)
Message: The only thing greater than the power of the mind is the courage of the heart.
Summary: From the heights of notoriety to the depths of depravity, John Forbes Nash, Jr. experienced it all. A mathematical genius, he made an astonishing discovery early in his career and stood on the brink of international acclaim. But the handsome and arrogant Nash soon found himself on a painful and harrowing journey of self-discovery. After many years of struggle, he eventually triumphed over his tragedy, and finally – late in life – received the Nobel Prize.

blow 202x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursBlow (2001)
Message: Cut corners to easy street and it can cost you everything.
Summary: I had to include my favorite gangsta flick in this list. George Jung is the son of a struggling small business owner. Seeing his family struggle to make ends meet and failing, George vows never to share a similar fate. Moving to California, he starts his own pot pushing operation in which he finds both success and imprisonment. In prison, he meets a cellmate who introduces him to the lucrative new market in cocaine. Upon release, George Jung quickly becomes a druglord moving masses of narcotics. However, for all the fabulous wealth and power he gained, the true costs of his dangerously treacherous occupation catch up with him in ways from which he would never recover.

startup 220x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursStartup.com (2001)
Message: Through our failures we become a greater success.
Summary: Friends since high school, 20-somethings Kaleil Isaza Tuzman and Tom Herman have an idea: a Web site for people to conduct business with municipal governments. This documentary tracks the rise and fall of govWorks.com from May of 1999 to December of 2000, and the trials the business brings to the relationship of these best friends. Kaleil raises the money, Tom’s the technical chief, and a third partner wants a buy out. The constant need for cash and for improving the site brings venture capital in by the millions. Kaleil is on C-SPAN, CNN, and magazine covers. Will the business or the friendship crash first?

corporation 211x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursThe Corporation (2003)

Message: Will you do what’s right or what will make you rich?
Summary: Since the late 18th century American legal decision that the business corporation organizational model is legally a person, it has become a dominant economic, political and social force around the globe. This film takes an in-depth psychological examination of the organization model through various case studies. What the study illustrates is that in the its behaviour, this type of “person” typically acts like a dangerously destructive psychopath without conscience. Furthermore, we see the profound threat this psychopath has for our world and our future, but also how the people with courage, intelligence and determination can do to stop it.

aviator 203x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursThe Aviator (2004)
Message: Imagine a life without limits.
Summary: Phenomenal public success contrasts with private behaviors close to madness: Howard Hughes from the late 1920s to the late 1940s, from “Hells Angels” (spending a fortune on details) through the only flight of the Hercules, a huge, money-losing transport plane. Along the way, the public Hughes sees the big picture – in movies and in aviation, building TWA and leading it through a fight with Pan Am and the US Senate. In private, phobias and compulsions threaten him with self-imposed solitary confinement. How long can his imagination, drive, and the sympathies of Katharine Hepburn, Ava Gardner, and the men who work for him stave off these internal disorders?

the secret movie 210x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursThe Secret (2006)
Message: You are what you attract.
Summary: The Secret is a feature length movie presentation which reveals The Great Secret of the universe. It has been passed throughout the ages, traveling through centuries… This is The Secret to everything – the secret to unlimited joy, health, money, relationships, love, youth: everything you have ever wanted. All the resources you will ever need to understand and live The Secret. The world’s leading scientists, authors, and philosophers will reveal The Secret that utterly transformed the lives of every person who ever knew it… Plato, Newton, Carnegie, Beethoven, Shakespeare, Einstein.

PWA_OneSheet_V21.qxdPeaceful Warrior (2006)
Message: Our true-self will always outperform our ego.
Summary: A talented college gymnast with serious Olympic aspirations, Dan Millman, leads a charmed life of first-place trophies, fast girls, and rowdy parties until a career-threatening injury and a chance meeting with a mysterious stranger named Socrates (Nick Nolte) show him how little he truly knows about living. In the months that follow his tragic injury, both Socrates and elusive beauty Joy impart to the growing young man the wisdom that he needs to leave the past behind and follow the path of destiny and fulfill his transformation into the peaceful warrior.

pursuit of happyness1 201x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursPursuit of Happiness (2006)
Message: Life isn’t easy and we must make sacrifices.
Summary: In 1981, in San Francisco, the smart salesman and family man Chris Gardner invested the family savings in Ostelo National bone-density scanners, an apparatus twice more expensive than x-ray with practically the same resolution. The white elephant financially breaks the family, bringing troubles to the relationship with his wife that leaves him and moves to New York. Without money and wife, but totally committed with his son Christopher, Chris sees the chance to fight for a stockbroker internship position at Dean Witter, disputing for one career in the end of six months training period without any salary with other twenty candidates. Meanwhile, homeless, he has all sorts of difficulties with his son.

bucket list poster 203x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursThe Bucket List (2007)
Message: If you are not living, you are dying.
Summary: Corporate billionaire Edward Cole and working class mechanic Carter Chambers have nothing in common except for their terminal illnesses. While sharing a hospital room together, they decide to leave it and do all the things they have ever wanted to do before they die according to their bucket list. In the process, both of them heal each other, become unlikely friends, and ultimately find the joy in life.

slumdog millionaire poster full 202x300 21 Inspirational Movies For Young EntrepreneursSlumdog Millionaire (2008)
Message: It’s not where you’re from, but where you’re going.
Summary: In Mumbai, the eighteen year-old orphan from the slums Jamal Malik is tortured by the policemen in a precinct accused of cheating a game show. Jamal, who has no education and works in a call center serving tea, is close to wining twenty million rupees in the show “Kaun Banega Crorepati?” (Who Wants To Be A Millionaire?) hosted by Prem Kumar, giving precise answers to the questions and raising suspicion of fraud. The police inspector shows the videotape and after each question, Jamal tells parts of his childhood with his brother Salim, his crush for Latika and their fight to survive on the streets to justify each correct answer, guided by his common sense and past experience, and prove his innocence.

If you have any favorites that are not on the list, please share them in the comment box below…

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Do we ever question ourselves

Do we ever question ourselves,
the very reason why we fight for someone/something sometimes?
Its because that someone/something is important to us. Like how it hurts,
to see something you have build up just fall to pieces just like that,with a snap.
Or see something you fight for,then later seeing yourself let go.

To the world you maybe just one person,but to one person,you maybe the world.
We do things for the ones we love,sometimes because we love them too much.
So much so that,we do things though it might hurt ourselves,but for the sake of them?
Nothing else pretty much matters. We rather hurt ourselves,then seeing the other get hurt.
Why can’t ya’ll just fight a little harder with life gets a little tougher? =/
Fight for this love,because its worth fighting for isn’t it?
This depressing state of me is coming back,I didn’t maintain it for two days,fail.
Not even for one day.

Today is another day & I still love you.
I want you to stay, I really do.
I can never love anyone like the way I love you.
Only you could break down the walls of my heart.
Only you can make me love you this much.

and my heart bleeds for the second time tonight.
Do you not know,I love&miss you, so much?

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How to Cope With Emotional Pain

Life, while mostly enjoyable, does have its ups and downs. The sun shines on the evil and the good. Pain is an inevitable part of life. Never think that you’ve been singled out for pain. We all seem to understand that physical pain takes time to subside, and as the wound or illness that caused the pain heals, the pain will ease. What we have more trouble with is realizing that emotional pain also takes time to heal.

1. Don’t try to cure normal. Emotional pain is caused by any number of events: death of a loved one, a breakup, thoughtlessness or cruelty on the part of others. When you’re hurting because of any of the above, accept that it’s normal to feel hurt. Let’s face it: if a loved one dies, what sort of cold person just goes about his business as if all were well? If you love someone and that person dumps you, it’s natural that you would feel hurt, angry, scared. These things are normal. Trying to cure what is normal is pointless. So expect to feel pain for a while – it’s normal

2.There’s a statement that goes something like, ‘If you get (enter mad, hurt, insulted, offended, etc., here) it’s your fault.’ That’s just not true. That suggests that people don’t love, or bond, or trust, or invest emotions. If you have emotional pain, there’s a reason for it.

3.Don’t pretend you don’t feel it. The pain is real. You have to address it, or you will never get beyond it. Don’t try to rush through this season of pain. Even though all you can really think about is ending the pain, the truth is that just allowing yourself the feelings is important. Masking your pain when you’re trying to work or just get through each day may be necessary to a point, but make sure to allow yourself some “me-time” – some time to allow yourself to really feel all of the feelings you are having, rather than just suppressing and denying them.

4.Identify all of your feelings. Are you just heartbroken? Or are you angry, too? Maybe just the tiniest bit relieved – which is also making you feel guilty? Do you feel betrayed? Insecure? Afraid? Giving some thought to exactly how you are feeling can be very helpful in processing all of your emotions in the wake of a traumatic or life-changing event.

5. Endure it. Things that cannot be cured must be endured. It sounds obvious, but sometimes, thinking of emotional pain as if it were physical pain can be very helpful. Think of your broken heart just as if it were your arm that is broken instead. A broken arm takes time to heal, and it hurts like crazy just after it’s broken, even after it’s been set and casted. A few days later, it doesn’t hurt so much. But weeks or even months later, if you bump or jar it, that pain can come roaring back to life with a vengeance. You baby it a little, take care not to aggravate it, and eventually, it’s stronger where it was broken than it was before. You have no choice – you can’t cut off the arm. That won’t make it hurt any less. You just have to endure it while it heals.

6. Talk to someone. There are times when it seems that the hurt you feel inside is just too deep to talk about. You feel like no one could understand. Or maybe you worry because your loved ones didn’t share your feelings about whatever it is that’s hurting you. Maybe they didn’t care for your boyfriend, whom you just broke up with, or they didn’t know your friend, who passed away. You may be right – they may not totally understand. But right now, it isn’t being understood that you need. It’s compassion. Your family and friends love you. They see you hurting and want to help. Sometimes, if you will just try to talk out your feelings, say something about what hurts, it can help start your healing. Letting someone put his or her arm around you and hearing them say, “It’s going to be okay” may not seem that helpful, but it really is, because it helps you feel you’re not totally alone. Realizing that someone wants to be there for you will help.

7. Don’t let anyone tell you that your feelings aren’t real. They are real, significant, and important.

8. Get your mind off yourself and how bad you feel. You have the right to feel sorry for yourself – for 10 minutes. Then you have to move on. No exceptions. Go out with friends. Tell yourself that you will not talk about your pain for more than a few minutes – you will not bring down the activity by wallowing in it. Don’t let your friends walk on egg shells around you just because you’ve been traumatized. You still need to live. Distract yourself by just forgetting it for a little while. If you’re grieving a death, or heartbroken over a breakup, especially, giving yourself a little time to just be without obsessing on the event that hurts will help you to heal and move past it. That’s not to say that you just forget about it and move on – no. It’s only to say that even grief needs to take a breather. Give your weary heart a little respite, and let it mend with the love and lightness of heart that comes from being with friends, or doing something that brings you pleasure. There will be time to cry again, but not just now.

9. Allow time to heal you. This is part of just enduring. You will need to muster up the patience to allow healing to commence. There isn’t any substitute for just … waiting. Time requires one thing: that you allow it to pass. There’s a process for all grieving processes, and emotional pain is no different.

10. Don’t let your pain define you. Remember you are greater than this hard time, you have a past and a future. This is one episode which will pass sooner or later.

11. Write a letter. Writing down your feelings can help you to sort them out. It can help more if you use positive “I messages” instead of negative ones.

12. Stay away from statements that blame you or others. Take responsibility for your actions, and your part of whatever went wrong, but do not indulge in blaming. The question of “And whose fault is/was that?” does not apply.

13. Develop a learning orientation. Life hands you difficulties so you can learn from them. People who have really easy lives fall apart when bad things happen because they have never learned how to cope or let things role off their backs. Everything, even very painful times, can be used to learn better coping skills and to develop wisdom and perspective about life that will help you deal with all the difficulties of life. Whatever doesn’t destroy you can serve to make you stronger.

14. Make a ‘Thankfulness List’. Write down what you are thankful for, even basic things like having clothes and a warm place to sleep, then moving to people who care for you, and good things in your life. Being thankful is naturally healing and will balance out any trauma over time.

It’s normal to feel hurt or pain for some time after an event. How much time is up to you. Don’t let others rush or pressure you into “getting over it” on some timetable. But if you feel hopeless, or helpless, and this feeling doesn’t improve over time, but instead seems to linger, seek professional help. Emotional injury can lead to depression, which can be treated – don’t let yourself continue a downhill slide indefinitely. You should reach a peak or plateau, and things should start to turn around. You shouldn’t just feel like you’re continuing down, down, down.

Watch out for addiction to drama. You can get a lot of attention when things get bad – but it’s not healthy to keep working your friends for attention to your dramas. It can be hard to give up the experience of having people sympathize as you tell how bad it is, but drama can become a way of life that sucks all the good feelings out of your relationships. If you find yourself telling the same story over and over again, or similar stories where you are the victim and someone else is the villain, it’s time to get a handle on yourself!

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Dealing With Backstabbing

January 9th, 2010 Amar E. Chakravarthi No comments

“Et tu, Brutus”, went the famous refrain spoken by Julius Caesar, when he found out that two of his most trusted “friends” had stabbed him in the back. Such people have been a part of society, and workplaces, since time immemorial. At the workplace, backstabbers are those, who would go to any extent to rise up the professional ladder. They may be sugar (saccharine) sweet on your face, probably the last ones, anybody would suspect of spreading malicious rumours about anyone. Well, they need the veneer of extra sweetness to disguise all that malice! They should, however, not be a cause for your vexation. Such people need to be handled with cautious indifference, causing them to lose the confidence of others, in the workplace.

Professionally Yours
Keep your interaction with the person concerned strictly professional. This may not put an end to this person’s bad behavior, but the fact that you are unruffled by his/her unprofessionalism will make him small in front of others, in front of whom he might have spoken ill about you.
Don’t Get Trapped
In case he/she tries to instigate you into an argument, which might spiral into a dispute easily, be extremely carefully. Handle the situation with control. Remember, exercising control over your emotions and not getting too heated about his/her words will make him look like, someone devoid of gravity in front of others. In case he/she invites you to join in a gossiping spell, politely refuse, and say that you are busy.
Shh… Secret!
Do not give this person any material to talk about. Be extremely secretive about your personal details – your family, your personal life, and so on. Devoid of any leads on facts about your life, he/she will be forced into cooking stories, an act that will make him smaller in front of others.
Be Disinterested, Not Uninterested
You may not really want to participate in the gossip mill yourself, but it might do you good to keep yourself updated about what is being said about you, or anybody else. The logic here is, if you know what is being spoken about you, you know how to deal with it, better.
Confront
This may or may not work, to begin with. Confront the person point blank and ask him what his/her problem is. Do not, however, run to him and catch him by the collar! Strike up a conversation and then say something like “I understand you have a problem with me. Would you like to tell me about it?” Be positive in your approach instead of accusing him/her, or being judgmental towards him/her. In case he/she denies having said anything, leave it at that, and change the topic.
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26 Reasons to NOT Create Your Personal Brand

December 27th, 2009 Amar E. Chakravarthi No comments
Have you ever considered whether you should create your personal brand? Have you been procrastinating? Are you thinking that 2010 will be the year you jump on the personal branding band wagon?
Maybe you should read this first before you take the plunge.

Have you ever considered whether you should create your personal brand? Have you been procrastinating? Are you thinking that 2010 will be the year you jump on the personal branding band wagon?Maybe you should read this first before you take the plunge.

Here are 26 reasons to NOT create your personal brand:

  1. You do not want to differentiate yourself
  2. You want to receive less opportunities
  3. You want to achieve your goals slower
  4. You do not want to be found online
  5. You do not like meeting new people digitally
  6. You do not want to be seen as a thought leader
  7. You want to make less money
  8. You prefer more risk
  9. You want less job security
  10. You do not want to make sacrifices
  11. You do not want to take control of your career
  12. You do not see the value in social media
  13. You are unwilling to learn new trends
  14. You do not want to try something new
  15. You do not care about personal branding
  16. You are willing to let others speak for you
  17. You prefer to live in the past
  18. You are stubborn
  19. You are a late adopter
  20. You are not driven to succeed
  21. You do not want to rise above the noise
  22. You do not aspire to be a leader
  23. You do not want to create your circumstances
  24. You prefer to be passed over
  25. You prefer to not have a voice
  26. You think branding is only for companies

Personal branding is your gateway to success

I’m sure you all get it by now — there is no good reason to not create your personal brand. If you have a goal and it is something you want to reach — your personal brand can help get you there faster. I have still haven’t heard a reasonable excuse to not create your personal brand — and there are some creative excuses out there.

What do you think? Did I miss any reasons to NOT create your personal brand? Please leave your reason to NOT create your personal brand in the comment section below. Let’s get some good one’s going.

Have a great weekend.

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Loneliness

December 20th, 2009 Amar E. Chakravarthi No comments

Mother Teresa said, “Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.”

Loneliness is more than a feeling or an emotion… it’s isolation, it’s emptiness. It isn’t just wanting company… it’s feeling disconnected and alone.

It’s not the type of thing that you can list a few statistics to understand, but it is something we all would have experienced at some time.

It can be found in big cities, where people feel anonymous and cut off… lost in the crowd… without a community to attach to and identify with.

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Invest in a Girl and She Will Do the Rest

December 20th, 2009 Amar E. Chakravarthi No comments

With all the talk about sustainable development, it is important to look at the people who should make up half the effort. At the Clinton Global Initiative, former President Clinton stated that women produce 50% of the world’s food, do 66% of the world’s work, earn 10% of the world’s income and own 1% of the world’s property.

Over the past couple weeks, there’s been a lot of buzz over the latest development book Half the Sky. Written by Pulitzer Prize-winning reporters Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn, the book focuses on how investing in women can lift communities out of poverty. The title comes from a Chinese proverb, “Women hold up half the sky” and illustrates how empowering women creates opportunity for communities.

Last year, The Girl Effect illustrated the theory that women are the key to ending poverty in their viral video.  A woman is more likely to spend her money on education, health and improving her family’s status. Hopefully, Half the Sky will reach out to an even larger audience to support women around the world by telling the stories of women trapped in oppressive conditions and the few success stories. For example, Sheryl WuDunn, in a TV interview, shared the story of the woman in Pakistan who went from getting beaten by her unemployed husband to receiving a US $65 and started an embroidery business employing thirty families in the village including her husband.

The book goes beyond narrative and encourages readers to participate online. Kristof regularly blogs on the topic and has created the hashtag on Twitter for #HalfTheSkyTuesday to spread the word. Readers can also help finance microloans to women through Kiva.orgPro Mujer or any number of organizations listed on the Half the Sky Movement page. It’s easy to make a difference too.

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Just Do It

December 18th, 2009 Amar E. Chakravarthi No comments
No. This is not some Nike Propaganda
Last night I saw a show – “The New Inventor” on the Australia Network channel, a channel that in the past I have only flipped through en route from “Star World” to “AXN”. One of the inventors being profiled on the show made a statement, one that I have heard in the past, but one so profound that it deserves its own blog post.
I paraphrase his statement below -
When you have an idea or a vision, it can have three possible outcomes -
You give it all you’ve got and you suceed
or, You give it all you’ve got and fail
or, You ignore it and spend a lifetime wondering “What If?” !!!
The first outcome is the happy path. The second outcome involves a temporary downside accompanied by lessons that will serve you for a lifetime. The last outcome involves a lifetime of doubt.

No. This is not some Nike Propaganda

Last night I saw a show – “The New Inventor” on You Tube. One of the inventors being profiled on the show made a statement, one that I have heard in the past, but one so profound that it deserves its own blog post.

I paraphrase his statement below -

When you have an idea or a vision, it can have three possible outcomes -

  • You give it all you’ve got and you suceed
  • or, You give it all you’ve got and fail
  • or, You ignore it and spend a lifetime wondering “What If?” !!!

The first outcome is the happy path. The second outcome involves a temporary downside accompanied by lessons that will serve you for a lifetime. The last outcome involves a lifetime of doubt.

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